Setting Boundaries During Social Distancing…

Some might not believe that boundaries are important or even needed at this time in our lives.  Many of us are on quarantine practicing social distancing and ordered to not leave our homes unless it is essential - groceries, doctor, or car needing gas.  What would we need boundaries for?

If you have watched most news networks or seen newspaper articles, there are many people who are not taking covid-19 seriously.  They are going out, getting together in large groups and having fun.  However, their fun could infect someone with covid-19 as they might be a carrier and not know it.  They might be healthy themselves but others can still get sick.  

There are also some who believe they are social distancing but are have gatherings at each other’s homes or rotating their kids hanging out at different homes to give parents a break.  It is a nice idea, but again, we don’t know who they have been in contact with.  In order to participate in flattening the curve, we need to be staying in our own homes - and I understand how difficult this is for those with teenagers.

It is okay to set boundaries.  It is actually encouraged.  You are allowed to:

•tell someone you do not wish for them to visit 

•decline getting together

•turn down offers for babysitters

•not shake hands, hug, or give kisses

•determine what is your space so you can feel safe

Setting boundaries at anytime is a way to take care of ourselves, assert ourselves, and to use our voice.  Our boundaries are even more important now.  They can help keep us, and those we love, safe and healthy.

If you struggle with setting or holding boundaries and would like to take this time to work on them, schedule a complimentary call with me and we can discuss how we can work together.

P.S. If you are in a situation where setting boundaries causes you harm by those you are near, please get help.  For resources, visit www.domesticshelters.org. If more immediate, call 9-1-1